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Hello and welcome to C2SUB-C.


Now, you may be wondering what this odd title stands for so I'll explain.


Conscious to Sub-Conscious = C2SUB-C


So what's it all about?


We are not ruled by the physical world or by our physical presence. We have refined our thinking through time to appreciate music, art and wonder. We have done this because we are dominated by our thoughts and emotions. Our thoughts and emotions rule our lives and control our every move. Our thoughts and emotions are controlled by our Sub-conscious mind and translated into reality by our Conscious mind. Our Conscious mind acts as a receptor and transmitter for our Sub-conscious while our Sub-conscious is our processing centre.


C2SUB-C is a site dedicated to examining the Conscious to Sub-conscious link so we can better understand how our thoughts and emotions affect our daily lives and can be controlled or understood to give us more control in our lives.


We examine the spiritual, personal and social aspects of living which affect us all and we refine the material to suit every individual.


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Once again, welcome to the site where I hope you will find inspiration and learning to affect your life in a positive way for your future success.

Museum of Hurts

Welcome to the Museum of Hurts

We age, we cry and
the scars we carry weigh 
heavy on our minds.
"Relent, relent!"
we say, as though
anyone can hear us.
Our echos carry far
in the void between
the past and 
the present moment. 
Put away your tears
cry not for
promise is upon us.
We have danced in the light
of love and grace,
we have seen the clouds lifted,
the past is now
but a distant shadow.
Think not of the crimes of
those days gone by
yet even now
and in now even temper
and love and light and laughter,
to answer prayers.

James Finnie - 11.3.12

A habit that most of us have, without realising and without deliberate mallice, is to hold onto the hurts of our past life. We judge ourselves not from what we may become or what we may feel we are capable of but by our failings and from where we have gone wrong in life. This state of mind hurts us and fills us with regret.

Each time something goes wrong in our life, we add the event to our "Museum of Hurts".

In learning to let go of the past and bring forgiveness into our minds and hearts, we rid ourselves of the very things which restrain and restrict us - THAT WHICH CANNOT BE CHANGED!


In life, one thing stands out above all others; YOU CANNOT CHANGE THE PAST!

The good news is that YOU DO NOT HAVE TO!

It is impossible to go back in time. We can learn from the past and we can apologise for our behaviour which may have affected others; we can remember happy times and use our experiences to help shape our future, but we cannot travel back in time and change anything that has happened. Yet, knowing that we do not have this power, does not seem to stop us wishing we could or carrying our pasts around like heavy, unwanted baggage.

We involve ourselves in relationships where initially everything is wonderful and we become convinced that we have found the love that has been missing all of our lives yet within two years of this we argue with each other and think about splitting up the relationship because we cannot stand living with them anymore. The point here is thatwhat usually splits relationships up is that each party "raids their museum of hurts".

So, over time you and your partner or, if you are single, you and a family member/friend/collegue, build a history together. Each event is logged in your memory and builds a living picture which is mixed with your emotions, judgements, perceptions etc etc etc. When you argue, your tendency becomes to draw on this past history and use it to attack the other person. So you say things like:

  • "You always squeeze the toothpaste in the middle no matter how many times I have asked you not to!"

  • "Why are you always running me down?"

  • "I am sick of the way you keep breaking promises."
The problem with these statements is that they include past events which have long disappeared making any defense to them impossible because the moment has gone. They are accusations, not good points, not good communications, just accusations which are being used to release your frustrations and pent up anger. You could have said:

  • "When you sqeeze the toothpaste in the middle like that I feel irritated because it costs me time to flatten the tube out. Do you think you could consider this moving forward?"
  •  
  • "It feels as though you are disappointed in me and I wonder if I can ever really please you. How do you see us moving forward in life?"
  •  
  • "At some point it would be nice if you could finish that job you started and take me out to dinner."
The difference in these statements is that they are simply statements of the present moment with a view to the future which means that the other person can respond in the present moment and not have to remember everything that has gone before.
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