Surround yourself with love, with love
Surround yourself with love, with love
Surround yourself with love, as an angel from above
Surround yourself with love, with love
Surround yourself with love, with love
Surround yourself with love, with love
Surround yourself with love, as an angel from above
Surround yourself with love, sweet love
Surround yourself with love, with love
Surround yourself with love, sweet love
Surround yourself with love, as an angel from above
Surround yourself with love, sweet love
Surround yourself with love, sweet love
Surround yourself with love, sweet love
Surround yourself with love, as an angel from above
Surround yourself with love, sweet love
(repeat verse 4 four times ending with two last lines sung slowly)
(start the song slowly and as each verse builds, quicken the pace)
Locked emotions
By nature we are fearful creatures. Our fearfulness however builds resilience and it is our resilience that helps us to survive.
Although we are an evolved form of human who have grown an understanding for love, life and culture, we are not too far removed from our primeval roots. The main difference is that we choose mates now who will fulfil our emotional needs rather than simply a mate who is strong as a caveman or cave woman might have. Otherwise, we still have to face the threats and vigours of life in many different forms from dangerous animals, to bad weather to the cut and thrust of a city. As we do this we throw up a protective wall around ourselves we call resilience.
We have no need of our emotions as we walk through a city and fight against the hustle and bustle. If faced with a dangerous animal we hide our fear away and focus only on our survival. When bad weather sets in we bolt the doors and windows and find cheery things to do inside in spite of it. At all times, we push away the emotions that the situation evokes and instead bring forth the coping mechanisms we need to get through the situation unscathed.
Now think of the last time you had an injury. When you were on your own and not looking for sympathy from other people did you feel the pain so much as when others were around? How bothersome was the pain or discomfort you felt from the injury? Why did it bother you so much?
When we are injured we seek comfort and sympathy from others. We need them to know we are hurt and we reach out for them to help. This dependency is normal and part of our tribal make-up but it is a false face on what is actually going on for us.
Our injury is not as bad as we are making out. In fact, when we are alone, we function reasonably normally and do not feel as much pain or discomfort. This is because our resilience kicks in and withdraws the emotion from what we are feeling because in terms of survival, we do not need emotion in this situation. Emotions serve no purpose here, they only hinder our progress.
When we are hurt emotionally we do allow our feeling to rule us for a while but after some time this becomes tiresome and painful for us and we crave an end to it. We fight against the negative emotions we feel and push ourselves into a more positive frame of mind. We need to do this in order to still function and survive in life.
In so many different situations we lock our emotions away because they hurt and hinder. We do not need them to survive. They are a modern indulgence which our ancestors coped without.
There is nothing much you can do about this but it does serve to know about it and be aware of it. How much emotion do you attach to the situations in your life that you are locking away in order to survive? Are you living your life in an entirely honest manner?
If you like, make a small list of three recent negative events in your life. They might be physical or situational. Now think about how each event made you feel. Honestly! Are there emotions present in your memory that you were otherwise unaware of? I bet there are. These are the emotions that you locked away at the time in order to survive. Now if you like, you can examine each one in turn and see if you can identify why you chose to bring that particular emotion to the situation and why you decided to lock it away.
Although we are an evolved form of human who have grown an understanding for love, life and culture, we are not too far removed from our primeval roots. The main difference is that we choose mates now who will fulfil our emotional needs rather than simply a mate who is strong as a caveman or cave woman might have. Otherwise, we still have to face the threats and vigours of life in many different forms from dangerous animals, to bad weather to the cut and thrust of a city. As we do this we throw up a protective wall around ourselves we call resilience.
We have no need of our emotions as we walk through a city and fight against the hustle and bustle. If faced with a dangerous animal we hide our fear away and focus only on our survival. When bad weather sets in we bolt the doors and windows and find cheery things to do inside in spite of it. At all times, we push away the emotions that the situation evokes and instead bring forth the coping mechanisms we need to get through the situation unscathed.
Now think of the last time you had an injury. When you were on your own and not looking for sympathy from other people did you feel the pain so much as when others were around? How bothersome was the pain or discomfort you felt from the injury? Why did it bother you so much?
When we are injured we seek comfort and sympathy from others. We need them to know we are hurt and we reach out for them to help. This dependency is normal and part of our tribal make-up but it is a false face on what is actually going on for us.
Our injury is not as bad as we are making out. In fact, when we are alone, we function reasonably normally and do not feel as much pain or discomfort. This is because our resilience kicks in and withdraws the emotion from what we are feeling because in terms of survival, we do not need emotion in this situation. Emotions serve no purpose here, they only hinder our progress.
When we are hurt emotionally we do allow our feeling to rule us for a while but after some time this becomes tiresome and painful for us and we crave an end to it. We fight against the negative emotions we feel and push ourselves into a more positive frame of mind. We need to do this in order to still function and survive in life.
In so many different situations we lock our emotions away because they hurt and hinder. We do not need them to survive. They are a modern indulgence which our ancestors coped without.
There is nothing much you can do about this but it does serve to know about it and be aware of it. How much emotion do you attach to the situations in your life that you are locking away in order to survive? Are you living your life in an entirely honest manner?
If you like, make a small list of three recent negative events in your life. They might be physical or situational. Now think about how each event made you feel. Honestly! Are there emotions present in your memory that you were otherwise unaware of? I bet there are. These are the emotions that you locked away at the time in order to survive. Now if you like, you can examine each one in turn and see if you can identify why you chose to bring that particular emotion to the situation and why you decided to lock it away.
Find your centre
The reason people become stressed, depressed or otherwise bothered by life and their living situations is because they become imbalanced. This begins as we reach our age of awakening usually about 11 or 12 years of age as the brain fully develops and continues as we progress through life.
The unbalancing is not something we can avoid, nobody escapes! So, there is no judgement here for anyone. Our minds become imbalanced and this is a natural occurrence because our individual internal strategy (or, script behaviour) for survival conflicts with parental and societal constraints/rules for living.
The result, for most of us, is a deep longing to "be free"! From what, we are not sure of because we are unaware of what is causing our imbalance but we just know, in the back of our mind, that all is not right in our life and we strive to make it better.
We reach out to others who are also caught up in this deep struggle. We look to find people who will rescue us from our perceived strife and we look to save others too. We perceive ourselves as an underdog and therefore have great, natural sympathy for other underdogs, compassionately doing all we can to help those we see are being exploited by tyrannical governments or corporations or those afflicted by natural disasters.
It is our need to rescue or save that drives us to fall in love so easily and often, so blindly.
As life progresses, so too does our self fulfilling prophesy that we will never make sense of this awful world or this complicated life. The relationships we choose are all too often doomed to fail because we were not initially motivated by the right reasons for choosing a mate, instead our judgement was clouded by the rescue or save senses in our mind.
The further along the path of progression we go, the more our imbalance affects us so to pull ourselves out of this uncertain, unknown realm, we need to find our centre and refocus our minds in our adult state.
Centring:
The best method I have found for centring you mind is to use a time line.
CONGRATULATIONS! YOU HAVE CENTRED YOURSELF AND FOUND THE ELUSIVE FREEDOM YOU HAVE BEEN SEARCHING FOR. FROM NOW ON NOTHING WILL EVER BE THE SAME. EVERYTHING FOR YOU WILL BE A POSITIVE EXPERIENCE. TRUST THIS AND MOVE ONTO THE NEXT STAGE OF YOUR PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT.
The unbalancing is not something we can avoid, nobody escapes! So, there is no judgement here for anyone. Our minds become imbalanced and this is a natural occurrence because our individual internal strategy (or, script behaviour) for survival conflicts with parental and societal constraints/rules for living.
The result, for most of us, is a deep longing to "be free"! From what, we are not sure of because we are unaware of what is causing our imbalance but we just know, in the back of our mind, that all is not right in our life and we strive to make it better.
We reach out to others who are also caught up in this deep struggle. We look to find people who will rescue us from our perceived strife and we look to save others too. We perceive ourselves as an underdog and therefore have great, natural sympathy for other underdogs, compassionately doing all we can to help those we see are being exploited by tyrannical governments or corporations or those afflicted by natural disasters.
It is our need to rescue or save that drives us to fall in love so easily and often, so blindly.
As life progresses, so too does our self fulfilling prophesy that we will never make sense of this awful world or this complicated life. The relationships we choose are all too often doomed to fail because we were not initially motivated by the right reasons for choosing a mate, instead our judgement was clouded by the rescue or save senses in our mind.
The further along the path of progression we go, the more our imbalance affects us so to pull ourselves out of this uncertain, unknown realm, we need to find our centre and refocus our minds in our adult state.
Centring:
The best method I have found for centring you mind is to use a time line.
- Close your eyes and relax
- Think of one these shapes: SQUARE -- CIRCLE -- TRIANGLE -- PYRAMID
- Focus on where you envisage the centre of your mind to be and place your chosen shape there
- Once you are comfortable with your shape being in the centre of your mind, think about what direction you would point to if someone asked you to point to your past. Now do the same for your future. Once you know what direction your past and your future lie in, envisage a line connecting the two points using your shape as the centre of that line. This is your time line
- Relax some more
- Mentally lift yourself above your time line and look back towards your past. Imagine you can see your earliest memory as a block attached to the line. If you need to travel down your line or lift yourself higher in order to see that far then do so. Be sure you are comfortable with the memory you have chosen, be as certain as you can be that it is your earliest
- Mentally come back to the present time on your time line
- Relax some more
- Consider for a few moments the stress/depression/confusion/frustration that has brought you to this point in your life; this crossroads you are at where are now choosing a new direction to take yourself in. Do you really want to travel in a new direction? YES! Are you now choosing to travel in this new direction? YES! Can you feel yourself beginning to travel in this new direction? YES!
- Look along your time line to the future. Envisage a point along this line where you have accomplished your freedom. You have travelled in your new direction and moved out of your point of stress/depression/confusion/frustration and found freedom. Can you see that point on your time line? Is it marked as a block? GOOD! This is your freedom point! Now travel along your time line to this point and hover above it. Consider it and begin to feel the emotion that it represents. Now move along the time line again to a new point about half an hour after your freedom point and allow yourself to land in that moment. Now look back at your freedom point.
- Amazing, Yes? Wow, I bet you cannot believe how easy it was to get out of your present state right?
- Feel this. Breathe this new found freedom you have discovered. dwell in it for a few minutes.
- Now travel back to the present time which is the centre of your line, beneath which is your chosen shape which you placed in the centre of your mind. take the feeling of freedom with you. Allow your positivity to envelop you. Now land back onto your time line and passing through your chosen shape, when you feel comfortable to do so, open your eyes and come back into your reality.
CONGRATULATIONS! YOU HAVE CENTRED YOURSELF AND FOUND THE ELUSIVE FREEDOM YOU HAVE BEEN SEARCHING FOR. FROM NOW ON NOTHING WILL EVER BE THE SAME. EVERYTHING FOR YOU WILL BE A POSITIVE EXPERIENCE. TRUST THIS AND MOVE ONTO THE NEXT STAGE OF YOUR PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT.
Emotional constraints
Many people find confrontation or facing difficult circumstances and situations difficult. They feel anxious, nervous or afraid.
Why do you think this is?
Do you identify with this description?
We are taught; by parents and role-models, society, media and government to conform to a set of rules with which to live by. Now, although these rules are important for a democratic, free society to live by because they protect the innocent and stop bad people being bad, they are based on fear and their very presence in our lives teaches us to be afraid (of the consequences of not following the rules and the repercussions for mixing with those who would break the rules).
These rules are very restrictive and often we can feel trapped by them.
There are deeper concepts too that trap us:
Why do you think this is?
Do you identify with this description?
We are taught; by parents and role-models, society, media and government to conform to a set of rules with which to live by. Now, although these rules are important for a democratic, free society to live by because they protect the innocent and stop bad people being bad, they are based on fear and their very presence in our lives teaches us to be afraid (of the consequences of not following the rules and the repercussions for mixing with those who would break the rules).
These rules are very restrictive and often we can feel trapped by them.
There are deeper concepts too that trap us:
- I must marry and have children
- I must aspire to gain material wealth
- I must plan for my retirement
- I must work and pay bills
- I must aspire to be like people I admire
The truth is that you "MUST" do nothing. People have a habit of finding their own way in life without having to follow strict rules. Our minds are not set on self destruct, they are set for survival and so we can relax and allow our instincts to guide us rather than "having" to follow societies rules. Obviously I am not encouraging breaking the law but people who are relaxed and centred tend not to do this anyway.
The main problem with living with these rules is the restriction they create in our lives based on the fear they produce in us. Fear is an emotion. Fear produces other emotions too, usually negative such as anger, sadness and worry which contribute to us developing phobias, developing addictions and becoming more stressed and depressed.
Fear generates a huge range of emotions which are stimulated to protect us from the consequences we know about and the unknown outcome of events if we break the rules. These emotions are ever present in us as long as we accept societies rules and so we live continually in a state of "Emotional Constraint".
The trick to escaping the bonds of the "Emotional Constraint" is learning to let go of our inner worries and fears by learning how to set our own "Life Rules" which we write for ourselves based on our desires and needs.
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